Tag: Rest

You are Growing, Too

Do you feel burned out by trying to keep pace with others in your life who seem to be ahead?

Hurry is the great enemy of the spiritual life in our day. You must ruthlessly eliminate hurry from your life… There is nothing else.

– Dallas Willard

A little over a month ago, we set twelve pots out on our back patio and planted different seeds inside each of them. I was amazed to see green shoots poking up out of nine of the pots within a week after planting. However, there seemed to be nothing growing in the last few pots.

We assumed the birds had eaten the seeds, and we cut our losses, just grateful that most of the plants were growing. (I’m no green thumb, so having even one successful plant is a win!)

But I was taken by surprise today as I was about to dig up the soil in the seemingly barren pots and plant new seeds inside, only to find tiny green sprouts rising up to greet me. I was so glad I had slowed down and noticed them in time, and I felt a little guilty that I hadn’t given them more time to grow at their own pace.

We live in a very hurried society. Our attention spans are shorter, we are lonelier because we don’t make time to just be with people, and we are ranked by our efficiency. But when we hurry, we miss out on the subtle growth happening around us and within us on a daily basis.

Hurry is the enemy of love.

– Steve Biddulph

Our fear of falling behind stems from comparison. When our lives aren’t on the same trajectory as those around us, we begin to worry we aren’t growing fast enough, or even at all. This causes us to forget to be grateful and to feel like failures when we’re not. We’re just designed to move at a different pace, and that’s okay!

How can we enjoy life if we are always in a rush? Stopping and smelling the roses is such a cliché, but perhaps we need more of that mentality in our lives. We may miss opportunities for beauty and joy if we don’t pause regularly.

How can we truly love others when we are constantly moving from one thing to the next, always trying to better ourselves and up our statuses? Imagine how you’d feel if a loved one took time out of their day to listen to you and laugh with you and comfort you. To do nothing together. When’s the last time you did that with someone?

Finding someone to do nothing with can be harder than finding someone to do a hobby with or work on a project with. But perhaps those are the kind of friends to surround yourself with. It means they are there to be with you and nothing else.

This isn’t a call to “waste” time. It’s a call to figure out what your priorities are. To see if perhaps your fatigue or anxiety or stress could be soothed by the simple, yet vital practice of rest.

God calls us to rest. That’s why He created the Sabbath. When we rest, we have the energy to perform well in the other aspects of our lives. When we rest, we have the capacity to love others well. When we rest, we are aware enough to notice the ways we are growing, too.

How might God be calling you to slow down and rest today? Listen to Him and realize that rest is a sacred practice that you are meant to enjoy. You are worthy of rest.

Therefore, since the promise of entering his rest still stands, let us be careful that none of you be found to have fallen short of it. For we also have had the good news proclaimed to us, just as they did; but the message they heard was of no value to them, because they did not share the faith of those who obeyed. 

– Hebrews 4:1-2

Created for Rest

We were created for rest. How can we live that out in our busy lives?

I’ll never forget the time one of my friends shared the insight that we were not created to work hard enough to deserve rest, but to participate in rest itself.

Rest doesn’t mean laying around all day being lazy. It means embracing each season without racing ahead. It means taking the time to be still with Jesus each day. It means doing things that fill your soul and bring you joy. It means setting boundaries, even when others don’t understand.

In our bustling society, rest is often considered luxurious. Rarely do we think of not resting as a sin. However, the author of Hebrews counteracts this popular belief:

Therefore, since the promise of entering his rest still stands, let us be careful that none of you be found to have fallen short of it.

Hebrews 4:1

In fact, by resting, we proclaim the good news of Jesus.

That may seem confusing, but hear me out. When we rest, we:

  • Admit that we can’t do everything on our own strength
  • Trust that God will fill in the gaps that we miss during our breaks
  • Abide in the peace that only God can bring
  • Show ourselves love by recognizing and taking care of our needs
  • Love others better because we feel restored ourselves

Last weekend, I went on a retreat for the first time in four years. I certainly underestimated all that God would do during a simple less-than-48-hour period of intentional listening and community and rest.

To be honest, I hardly slept on the well-worn mattress in a lodge shared with spiders. Rest didn’t take the form of sleep during this retreat. But by spending time with God and close friends, I was able to experience peace and remember what joy feels like. Going back into a tough week, I felt strengthened and approached my relationships with grace rather than the impatience that comes from burn-out.

When sharing about my retreat with one of my friends (the same one I quoted earlier, isn’t she brilliant? 😉 ), she remarked, “Isn’t it amazing all God can do when we give Him a weekend?”

Rest allows us to focus on what God is doing in our lives. When we are rushing through our tasks, falling asleep before we can say “amen”, we lose sight of the wonder of our God.

You may not have time to go on a retreat; clearly it took me four years to make space for one. However, there are ways to incorporate rest in your daily routine. Even just setting aside 10-20 minutes at the beginning and end of each day to reflect and spend time with God, or saving an hour each weekend to do what brings you joy may help you feel more refreshed and eager to pursue your faith.

Rest is a free gift from God. Let’s accept it together, shall we?


But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.

2 Corinthians 12:9

Why the Rush?

Understanding the root behind our burnout.

There are many reasons why we find ourselves stuck in a busy rhythm with little time to be still.

Perhaps we have trouble setting boundaries, our job requires much from us, or we get bored easily. But at the root of these various reasons is fear.

Fear tells us that people won’t like us if we say no.

Fear tells us that we have to be the one to save the day.

Fear tells us that we are defined by what we do, not who we are.

Fear tells us that we will collapse if we take a break.

Fear tells us that slowing down means giving up.

Fear tells us that God won’t be there when we finally make the time to be still in His presence.

Fear tells us not to trust God with all areas of our lives, including our temptations, our distractions, our inadequacies, and our demands.

But who is fear to tell us anything?

Fear never stepped out in faith.

Fear never encouraged the outcast or belittled.

Fear never took a risk that could’ve cost everything.

Fear never filled us with peace amid a sea of uncertainty.

Fear has never gone through what you have gone through and still stands here today, undefeated.

So why do we trust a silly thing called fear when we have an almighty, loving God right beside us?

Today, may your act of courage be taking a moment to be still. Set aside all distractions and open your heart to God. Even if it’s a five minute walk, listening to nature rather than artificial sounds. Even if it’s participating in a simple breath prayer. Even if it seems so small and insignificant, it will make a huge difference on your wellbeing.

God is the God of rest. So be still in His presence today and be filled with His everlasting peace.

He says, “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.”

Psalm 46:10

Resting with God

Transforming your time with God through breath prayers.

I’ve recently been introduced to the concept of breath prayers. For those of you unfamiliar with this form of prayer, here is a definition of its purpose from Jennifer Tucker’s book, Breath as Prayer:

Breath prayers combine deep breathing exercises with prayers of meditation on God’s Word to help calm your body while focusing your mind on truth.

When prayed regularly, these prayers can transform how you respond to anxiety and can help you experience a deep and abiding peace.

One of the greatest gifts God gives us is rest. It is just as valuable as all the other spiritual disciplines, especially when we rest in God’s grace and peace.

I’ve often struggled with focusing while reading the Bible. When I read it to complete a plan or just to squeeze in some time with God during a busy season of life, I end up leaving the quiet time without feeling stirred or drawn closer to God.

Given the significance of the Bible in our relationship with and understanding of God, it’s important to be prepared going into our time in the Word. But how can we do that without making quiet time feel like a chore?

For me, breath prayers have helped so much. Before opening the Bible, settling my soul through focusing on a simple phrase or verse allows me to rest in God’s promises.

Then, after receiving a moment of peace, I am able to focus and appreciate what I’m reading. Deep breathing practices allow for more oxygen to go to the brain, so your body may also thank you for this gift!

If you have never done breath prayers before (or if you would like to resume them), try one with me:

As you inhale through your nose, pretend you’re smelling roses and allow your belly to expand. Closing your eyes may help as well.

When you exhale, pretend you’re blowing out birthday candles by pursing your lips in an “O” shape. Make sure your exhale is longer than your inhale.

Given that you are breathing, you will repeat this prayer internally rather than saying it aloud.

Inhale:

I wait for you, Lord.

Exhale:

My hope is in your Word.

It can help to repeat this process a few times, about 5-10 times or more if you’d like.

Going forward, I hope you can allow God’s gift of rest to fill your heart and release you from the burdens and anxieties plaguing your mind. You are so loved. ❤

Therefore, since the promise of entering his rest still stands, let us be careful that none of you be found to have fallen short of it. 2 For we also have had the good news proclaimed to us, just as they did; but the message they heard was of no value to them, because they did not share the faith of those who obeyed.

For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. 13 Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account.

Hebrews 4:1-2; 12-13

I wait for the Lord, my soul waits, and in His word I hope.

Psalm 130:5

Stillness and Snowflakes

You are an unrepeatable miracle of God.

You’ve likely heard the comparison of people to snowflakes. We’re unique individuals despite sharing the same qualities with one another that make us human. No two persons are the same.

Yet it’s so easy to look around and feel like the odd one out, the one who just isn’t as worthy or valuable as everyone else.

When’s the last time you stared up into the sky and watched the snow fall around you? Shivering as little flakes dust your eyelashes, causing you to blink in delight.

Perhaps you live somewhere without snow, so you’ve never had the opportunity. Or maybe snow is such a common commodity that you have forgotten what it’s like to stand in wonder.

Today, we were driving through thick, fluffy flakes on our way home from church. As we went along, the snow appeared as nonstop lines connecting the heavens to the ground, simple white streaks. But when we stopped at a red light, I stuck my head out the window and everything froze.

Every single unique snowflake fell delicately at its own pace, one after another. There was beauty because there were so many of them. Yet each one fluttered and flew in full acknowledgement of its own importance.

It took hitting the breaks to notice. To care. To ponder.

Whether or not you have snow to admire, perhaps taking a pause today will allow you to reflect on how God has showed up for you in the past and equipped you to face each day’s challenges. The emptiness in your heart will slowly mend as you remember those who did love you rather than those who didn’t take the time to understand you.

As an old professor once told us every class, you are an unrepeatable, irreplaceable miracle of God. Let the truth of those words sink into your heart today.<3

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

Psalm 139:14

Making Room for Rest

What does rest look like for you in this stage of life?

I have just returned from my time abroad! I am thankful for your patience as this site took a break, and I look forward to sharing all that God taught me during my trip over the next few weeks!

Heading into this trip, I distracted myself with many things. I was working multiple jobs, starting various creative projects, and never letting myself take a moment to realize what was happening.

Forcing myself to feel productive and purposeful left me feeling drained and overwhelmed. Actions meant to prevent me from harm ended up postponing the deeper healing I needed.

But thankfully God gave me the opportunity to step out of my current reality and objectively look at my life. Through the four weeks I was away, rest had to take a different form.

Often it was simply a necessity after running around a Tube station in search of the right train or a particularly intense class session. There was no other way to move forward without taking a breather first.

Ultimately, I realized more deeply than I ever had before that rest needs to be a priority. It may feel like laziness or procrastination, but making room for rest in life is the only way to do things well. To live fully into the purpose God has created us for.

And then, of course, the day after I get home the one thing I haven’t checked off on my to-do list is “rest”.

But rest can’t be checked off. Rather, it needs to be a practice. Pausing before reaching for our devices to soak in the moment and regroup. Praying and reading the Bible before starting or ending the day. Taking a walk before starting a task.

Rest looks different in each season, but it’s vital no matter where you are in life. I hope you can love yourself enough to give yourself the chance to rest and bring your best self to the table. You are worth it. ❤


Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, Jesus said to them, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.”

Mark 6:31

A Simple Prayer

Do you struggle with finding time for rest?

When I was young, I struggled with falling asleep. By struggled, I mean it was a serious battle every night to shut my fearful thoughts off long enough to close my eyes and let the heavy breathing set in.

As I’ve gotten older, this has improved, though I still struggle with falling asleep after a particularly stimulating day.

Perhaps you can relate to this particular problem, or on a broader scale, you have had trouble finding time to truly pause and rest. In our busy world, we are bombarded with demands and a million things to hold our attention.

But God promises us rest.

When I was young, I would ask my mom for help with falling asleep. She would launch into a lengthy prayer, listing off every possible person we might know who could use prayer. Sometimes, that would be enough to distract my thoughts to the point of falling asleep.

But now, I’ve gotten into the habit of refocusing my thoughts, rather than finding distraction, and centering them on God. A simple prayer, asking for rest, is all it takes to get that rest.

It may not come in the form you imagined. I have a friend who got sick and had to cancel her plans, which was very frustrating for her, but then it turned out she needed that week to rest up for the stressful month ahead.

Rest can come in many forms, such as:

  • God giving you the courage to set a boundary with someone
  • Cancelled plans
  • Having a barrier come up that opens up a chance to take a break
  • A few moments of quiet every night
  • Finding a listening ear in a friend you didn’t expect
  • Going out into nature to feel God’s presence
  • And many, many more! I would never want to limit God’s creativity.

Today, if you are feeling burned out, simply ask God for rest. Take this as a sign to take care of yourself, which is best done in nourishing your soul through rest and time with God. You are not weak for needing a break. ❤

Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.

Matthew 11:28-29

What Does it Really Mean to Follow Jesus?

Following Jesus isn’t about achieving “goodness”, but what if that’s a beautiful thing?

Perhaps if you grew up in a Christian home or attending Sunday School, you were taught that being a Christian meant asking Jesus into your heart.

And that’s true. But that’s not all of it.

Following Jesus isn’t about whether or not you miss a church service (or haven’t even found a church home yet). It isn’t about which pastors you agree with, whether or not you tithe, what your political views are, or how often you pray.

It all comes down to one simple question.

Who or what do you orient your life around?

And if the answer is anything but Jesus, it seems like you may be following something else instead.

Because if you put Jesus at the center of your life, your decision making, and your way of interacting with others, then everything will change. It will be evident that something greater than you is at work.

Now, this doesn’t mean you have to go around preaching the Bible to every single person you meet. It isn’t the stereotypical image of being a “good Christian”. In fact, I don’t believe there’s really any “good Christian”; that just sets up an unachievable image that turns people away.

I believe what matters is that we try our best and don’t give up on our relationship with God.

I’ll confess that I struggle at keeping Jesus at the center of my life. I often want my plans or dreams to come into fruition and then have the faith element happen later. But that’s not how faith works. Faith comes out of not knowing how things will work out, but believing that God is faithful regardless.

So how can we keep Jesus at the center of our lives without making it performative or have the act of “being a Christian” take over the true essence of embodying God’s love?

Do things that bring you closer to Jesus that don’t require an audience.

Read the Bible on your own, not to master a passage, but to envelope yourself in God’s promises.

Pray by yourself at a time when you know you won’t be disturbed.

Immerse yourself in God’s creation, appreciating God’s eye for beauty.

Don’t go out of your way to preach the Bible to others, but instead experience who God is and do your best to imitate that.

Most of all, be open to when God is speaking to you. See who God leads you to, what opportunities would best allow you to shine God’s light, and when is it time to refuel yourself in God’s peace and rest.

Following Jesus isn’t a simple checklist that can be completed in a lifetime. The truth is, no one can complete it because none of us can perfectly embody Jesus’ characteristics.

It’s more of a process, a true relationship. And I’ll guarantee, it’s the best relationship for you to invest in. ❤

For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.

Ephesians 2:8-10

Reactions Versus Reality

Do negative reactions cause you to doubt your purpose?

The perfect gift: a little heart-shaped box filled with colorful paper strips of personalized compliments. I had worked so hard on it and I was so excited to give it to my friend. I was a little nervous to see this friend’s reaction, but I just knew it had to be encouraging.

But when I handed it to him, all I got was a “thanks” before the box was chucked into the back of the car and never to be spoken of again. Afterwards, I wondered if my act of kindness wasn’t really so kind? Perhaps I was in the wrong for thinking I could be encouraging.

Years later, as chuckle ruefully at the memory, I am reminded of how important it is to not allow others’ reactions remake reality.

When we do a kind act, but we are not appreciated for it, we are less inclined to go the extra mile in the future. When we wear something that makes us feel special, but someone teases us, we aren’t encouraged to express ourselves. When we choose to reach out to a lonely person, but that person doesn’t respond the way we intended, we regret our brave choice.

But that doesn’t make any of those actions bad or wrong. It doesn’t mean we should regret helping others or being true to ourselves.

It just means that people’s reactions shouldn’t dictate the way we live our lives.

Think about someone who inspires you. Someone who is kind, even on an off-day. Someone who forgives and is willing to move on. Someone who uses their talents to bring hope and light into the world.

What if that person let one negative reaction stop them from caring? What if that person chose to follow the crowd instead of shine their light?

Well, you know personally that the world would be far less beautiful without their gifts.

You are just as capable of making a difference as the people you admire. But we are all susceptible to being torn down by negative reactions.

So how can we combat discouragement?

By following a different guidebook for life. And I think you know which guidebook I’m talking about!

When we follow God’s calling on our lives (through reading the Bible, the best guidebook there is), we are able to live without regret. Even if people laugh at us, don’t understand us, or pretend like we don’t matter, we will know that our presence and our faithfulness is making a difference.

Today, I hope that you can rest assured that every single kind thing you do matters. Every smile, every check-in, every time you do something extra. It all matters, both to God and to greater humanity, whether you realize it or not.

And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.

1 Peter 5:10

Resting to Rise

Are you making time for rest in your life?

If you’ve ever made bread before, you know the importance of yeast and resting time. Allowing the dough to rise for a set period of time seems like the easiest part of the baking process, but for an impatient baker like me, it’s the most difficult.

And, as you may have already guessed, I’ve tried avoiding this key step. And, without fail, skipping this seemingly mundane, “unnecessary” step causes my bread to end up flat and dense, pretty much inedible. Once I finally allowed for a proper resting time, I certainly saw the difference. With all the same ingredients, my bread transformed into a fluffy, soft, and flavorful delight that was praised rather than hesitantly bitten into.

When we allow our dough to rest, we are preparing it for the process of rising and becoming what it’s meant to be. And when we allow ourselves to rest, we are preparing ourselves for the process of becoming who we’re meant to be too.

We are often shamed for taking the time to rest. But the truth is, without rest, we don’t have the energy or motivation to keep going.

Now, perhaps the reason why rest has been dubbed “lazy” or “unproductive” is because we don’t fully understand what rest looks like.

Rest isn’t putting off work or avoiding certain tasks. It doesn’t mean scrolling on our phones or falling down the rabbit hole of aimless Google searches. Rest isn’t an excuse to not follow through with our promises or mooch off of others’ hard work.

Truly wonderful, life-giving rest comes from three main components:

Listening to your body

This means getting extra sleep when you feel fatigued or eating what makes you feel nourished and energetic. Listening to your body can also mean listening to your feelings and releasing what you’ve been bottling up inside. You aren’t ignoring your body’s cries for help, but instead expressing yourself and taking care of yourself in the ways you need.

Going on REtreats

You don’t have to go far to be on a retreat, but you certainly can if that’s what refreshes you. The simple act of stepping away from your day-to-day life and taking time to be in the presence of God can give you a new perspective on life. Being intentional about your time and taking these necessary breaks will help you see things on a broader scale and have more appreciation.

Doing what you love

Taking the time to pursue a hobby or passion, even if it’s for a few minutes a day or only on the weekends, will remind you what’s wonderful about life. These activities can remind you that you are made for more than just creating or following instructions. You are made to explore and discover all that God has for you. You are made to share your talents and passions with the world!

If you want to rise up into who you are meant to be, the first step is resting. Rest in the Lord. Rest in God’s promises for you. Rest in the fact that you are exactly where you are meant to be; there is no room for comparison here, only hope for the future.

We ought always to thank God for you, brothers and sisters, and rightly so, because your faith is growing more and more, and the love all of you have for one another is increasing.

2 Thessalonians 1:3