Category: Prayer

Imagine you’re a reporter, sitting down at a café with a steaming cup of coffee (or hot chocolate or tea, if you’re like me) and a flakey croissant. You tap your pen against the table, stealing glances over your shoulder toward the front door.

I wonder what He looks like, you think. Is He as big as they say? Will His brilliant light blind me?

God shows up–bigger, brighter, and better than you dreamed. He’s smiling when He sees you, His precious creation.

When we pray, we don’t often treat it like sitting down with God for coffee and having a friendly chat. Often, our prayer lives begin with a laundry list of requests, sometimes with complaints sprinkled in or even the occasional praise.

It shows maturity in faith to ask God questions during our time with Him.

But often, those questions are something like:

• What do you want me to do in ____ situation?
• Can you give me the strength to have patience with ____ person?
• What is your plan for my life?

Those questions are certainly welcomed by God, as they help us surrender to His will. But they are still centered on us. On what we want from God–wisdom, discernment, clarity, answers.

What if, in addition to these sorts of questions, we asked God to reveal His character to us?

Let’s return to our earlier scene. You’re meeting with God, as you would any other person you want to learn more about. What sorts of questions would you ask Him?

If I were interviewing God, here are a few questions I might ask:

• What inspired your creation of dogs?
• Can you feel different temperatures?
• What sorts of colors do you have in Heaven that we don’t have?

You may have a long history with God. That’s wonderful! But every relationship, including our relationships with other people, grow stale when we lose curiosity about one another.

Is there one person in your life who you can never spend too much time with? Perhaps they are your best friend or spouse or an important relative in your life.

Even though you know them intimately, there are still new things you’d like to know about them. You care about their opinion on issues and world events. You desire to know how they feel. You can never get enough of them.

What sorts of questions might you ask God if He were your best friend?

You may not find out what inspired God’s creation of giraffes or what His favorite color is, but perhaps you will get a deeper sense of who He is, which is what really matters.

Partner your time in prayer with reading God’s Word. If there was a book written about your best friend, you’d certainly want to read it!

As you read the Bible with the intention to understand God more, you may even receive the answers to the questions your heart longs for–both about God and about His purpose for you.

This week, I encourage you to invite God into every part of your life. Not just the discerning, big-decisions part. Not just the desperate, pleading part. But into the seemingly mundane, the simple joys and quiet whispers of the heart.

“You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you,” declares the Lord.

Jeremiah 29:13-14a (NIV)

Read this with me: Jesus Heals a Boy Possessed by an Impure Spirit

¹⁴ When they came to the other disciples, they saw a large crowd around them and the teachers of the law arguing with them. ¹⁵ As soon as all the people saw Jesus, they were overwhelmed with wonder and ran to greet him.

¹⁶ “What are you arguing with them about?” he asked.

¹⁷ A man in the crowd answered, “Teacher, I brought you my son, who is possessed by a spirit that has robbed him of speech. ¹⁸ Whenever it seizes him, it throws him to the ground. He foams at the mouth, gnashes his teeth and becomes rigid. I asked your disciples to drive out the spirit, but they could not.”

¹⁹ “You unbelieving generation,” Jesus replied, “how long shall I stay with you? How long shall I put up with you? Bring the boy to me.”

²⁰ So they brought him. When the spirit saw Jesus, it immediately threw the boy into a convulsion. He fell to the ground and rolled around, foaming at the mouth.

²¹ Jesus asked the boy’s father, “How long has he been like this?”

“From childhood,” he answered. ²² “It has often thrown him into fire or water to kill him. But if you can do anything, take pity on us and help us.”

²³ “‘If you can’?” said Jesus. “Everything is possible for one who believes.”

²⁴ Immediately the boy’s father exclaimed, “I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief!”

²⁵ When Jesus saw that a crowd was running to the scene, he rebuked the impure spirit. “You deaf and mute spirit,” he said, “I command you, come out of him and never enter him again.”

²⁶ The spirit shrieked, convulsed him violently and came out. The boy looked so much like a corpse that many said, “He’s dead.” ²⁷ But Jesus took him by the hand and lifted him to his feet, and he stood up.

²⁸ After Jesus had gone indoors, his disciples asked him privately, “Why couldn’t we drive it out?”

²⁹ He replied, “This kind can come out only by prayer.”

Mark 9:14-29 NIV

Yesterday, I read this passage with my Bible study, and our leader asked us a question I had never pondered before. Who was the one praying in this story?

The immediate answer would be Jesus, right? Since He’s the one who casts out the evil spirit.

But upon closer inspection, the words Jesus uses in this passage don’t sound like prayers. Rather, He’s mostly speaking to either the father of the boy or the spirit itself.

However, the father speaks to Jesus and says, “I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief!”

While this is a highly quotable verse, what if we view it as a prayer? Perhaps — likely, even — this is the prayer that heals his son. How can we learn to pray like this?

1. We speak directly to Jesus. Often, our prayers become long-winded when we forget we’re having a conversation with someone (not just our own thoughts) or if we feel the need to pray in a way that impresses God or others. This prayer is simple, a natural part of the boy’s father’s conversation with Jesus. While we don’t often view people’s conversations with Jesus as prayers (in the Bible), they are doing exactly what we are doing, only with Jesus being physically visible to them.
2. We proclaim our belief. While the father had been giving into fear and doubt earlier on, I believe his son’s healing comes from his own spiritual transformation from disbelieving to believing. Even if we are still struggling with doubts, declaring that we believe or that we desire to believe shows Jesus how important faith is to us.
3. We ask for help with believing. Jesus doesn’t expect us to figure out life or faith on our own. He is here to help us. So if we are struggling with fully believing in Him, we don’t have to be ashamed of asking for His assistance in this process.

So here are my challenges for you as you let this story soak into your understanding of Jesus and faith today:

• Read through other people’s interactions with Jesus in the gospels. Try to imagine them as prayers, perhaps just focusing on the dialogue being exchanged. Which prayer resonates most with you today?
• Write out a 1-2 sentence prayer to Jesus that captures the essence of what you are celebrating today and what you need from Jesus.
• Ask yourself, are you struggling with believing in Jesus’ ability to transform and heal the painful areas of your life? Is it time to ask Him to help you believe?

Isn’t it amazing to know that Jesus loves us so much and wants to hear from us? I hope this reminder brings you joy today.

I think most Christians struggle with prayer at least once during their lives.

For me, I grew up with difficulty motivating myself to pray because I had the misbelief that prayer is a list of requests and thanks, not a real conversation. And no matter what, it had to be boring.

When discussing prayer with other believers in my life, I hear of many other reasons why prayer can be difficult for them. Perhaps you can relate to a few of these reasons…

• God didn’t answer your prayer in the way you wanted
• You feel disappointed after praying
• Life is going well even when you don’t pray (or perhaps it feels like it goes better when you aren’t focused on God)
• You don’t have time to pray
• If God knows everything already, then why pray? Seems like a waste of His time
• You don’t know how to pray to God — after all, He’s the creator of the universe, that’s a bit intimidating

Or maybe your reason is entirely different. All of these reasons are valid…but they need to be understood and worked upon, not permanent excuses that create roadblocks in your relationship with God.

Dealing with Disappointment

If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask for in prayer.

Matthew 21:22

This verse feels so encouraging as a young Christian. I can ask for anything? Even a mountain to fall into the ocean? Even for an impossible healing? Even for all my dreams to come true?

But then, when life doesn’t go as planned, this verse becomes irritating, even angering. Am I praying wrong? Why isn’t prayer working?

Jesus never lies. However, sometimes we don’t quite understand what He means.

Before approaching this verse, it’s important to have a clear understanding of what prayer should be:

1. A bonding time with God
2. A time for requests, thanksgiving, praise, and repentance to take place
3. Transformative

You should never feel guilty for praying. God wants to be in communication with you. Jesus sacrificed everything so that we could have the Holy Spirit, our advocate, in prayer and in relationship with the Trinity. You are not wasting God’s time with your requests.

A few months ago, I was really having a hard time knowing what to say to God. Prayer journaling was easier for me, but that was all me talking*. When I bowed my head and closed my eyes, there was this tension preventing me from speaking from my heart.

*(Side note: I still highly recommend prayer journaling! It’s great to diversify the ways you pray)

During the “repentance” portion of my prayer, I would simply say, “God, I’m sorry for my sins. Please forgive me for my sins”. But then I started asking God for help in specific areas of my life. I invited God into the spaces I was ashamed of, the places where my mistakes were hiding.

There are times when I still struggle with being vulnerable with God. But thanking God for characteristics that are given in the Bible, such as His grace and mercy and love, help my heart to turn back to Him and remember that I am not alone on the journey to becoming who He created me to be.

Going back to Matthew 21:22, the Greek word for “receive” is “lambanō”. There are several definitions of this word. One is “to take, to take up”. I imagine that when we really believe in what we are asking God, He will receive our prayer. It will be taken up to Him.

Another definition is “sustain”. Prayer is meant to change us. It can change our desires, our feelings, our outlooks. It can change the course of our lives.

But even as we wait for those longer term things to change, we can transform from the inside out. Prayer can give us peace. It can sustain us during the toughest storms.

Instead of feeling disappointed in your prayer life, go into prayer time with the hope that you will come out with a closer relationship with God and a feeling of peace. Ask God what He wants you to receive from your time together.

As with everything, growing in your prayer practice will take time. But don’t give up — it will be worth it.

“Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead? ¹² Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? ¹³ If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!

Luke 11:11-13

*All Greek translations come from the MOUNCE Greek Translation on BibleGateway.