Category: Advice

Tips for Discerning Spiritual Mentorship

Unsure whether to accept spiritual advice from someone in your life? Consider these tips in your discernment process.

Spiritual mentorship can take a variety of forms, whether your mentor is a pastor, church leader, or close friend. Though the term “spiritual mentor” sounds pretty professional, it’s actually just the fancy term for any person you allow to speak into your relationship with God. Often this person gives you advice related to your faith, and perhaps they even preach sermons or teach you about God.

We get to choose who impacts our spiritual life. Given how this is the most important aspect of our lives, we must discern who can be trusted with this authority.

Unfortunately, there are many people out there who have good intentions but do not give godly counsel. Even sadder is that there are still others who intentionally distract people from God’s voice. This isn’t meant to scare you, but with this in mind, it may help you weed out who to receive spiritual direction from.

I’m still in the process of figuring out what a good spiritual mentor looks like, but I’ve been blessed to receive both amazing, godly mentors and others who have taught me what to watch out for. Here are a few tips for discerning whether someone should have spiritual authority in your life:

Does your mentor display these traits?

  • Humility
  • Graciousness
  • Joy
  • Love
  • Peace

Mentors come in all personality types, so it isn’t wrong for you to feel more drawn to someone who is energetic while your friend may be drawn to someone calmer and more soothing. However, there are a few core spiritual traits that should be evident in someone spiritually mature.

These gifts of the Holy Spirit reflect a person’s walk with God, particularly humility. It is dangerous to receive advice from someone who believes they have all the answers and take the place of God. They must know their worth: without God, they are nothing, but because of God, they are loved more than they could ever imagine. When we are influenced by people who know their worth, we will feel seen and loved as well.

Does their advice make you feel…

  • Convicted
  • Hopeful
  • Loved
  • Eager to spend more time with God

These four attributes are vital to sound spiritual advice. If your mentor is constantly praising you without being honest about where you may need to grow, then they are not a credible source of wisdom. The Bible is meant to convict us in a loving way so that we are reminded of our need for God and our call as His creation to love others as we have been loved.

With that said, you shouldn’t feel constantly beaten down either. The Bible is meant to give us hope that while we can’t save ourselves we have a Savior who loves us and allows us to do His work. Someone who puts you constantly to shame may not be aware of their own need for God’s grace. Mentors should be a reflection of God’s voice, not a speaker of the enemy’s deception.

Ask yourself these questions after being with them:

  • Do I respect them more after this conversation?
  • How does spending time with them make me feel?
  • Do I feel prompted to grow or take a proactive step after being with them? (Even if that step means rest or boundaries)
  • And lastly, the most important one: What gut sense am I receiving after asking God for wisdom?

Make sure you are including God in this discernment process. With Him at the core of your decisions and relationships, you will grow and learn no matter who you are with. Sometimes, we will have a sense that doesn’t align with what we can see, but it may be the Holy Spirit nudging us to either take a leap of faith or step back from a bad situation. Trust that God will provide you with the mentorship you need and pray that you may be surrounded by those who fill you with God’s love.

Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

Philippians 4:9

Instruct the wise and they will be wiser still;  teach the righteous and they will add to their learning.

Proverbs 9:9

Remember your leaders, who spoke the word of God to you. Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith.

Hebrews 13:7

But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have become convinced of, because you know those from whom you learned it.

2 Timothy 3:14

What Should Sharing the Gospel Feel Like?

Encouragement and advice for those who want to share their faith in a way that blesses others.

Evangelical Christianity leaves different tastes in everyone’s mouths, depending on their experiences. For some, it’s a hopeful and energetic taste, like crisp apple. For others, it’s a comforting taste, like smooth honey. But for many, unfortunately, it leaves a bitter or tart taste.

There are many reasons for the unpleasantness surrounding “Evangelical Christianity”, but at the core of them all is this: the sharer of the Word did not fully understand or appreciate the meaning and feeling of the gospel.

As someone who grew up, and remains, in an evangelical denomination, I still believe it is important — vital, life-giving even — to share the gospel. However, our mindset and intentions are essential to whether or not sharing the gospel blesses unbelievers.

So…What should Sharing the gospel feel like?

For my birthday one year, I was given a generous box of beautifully arranged sweets. Each set within the box was so delicately arranged, almost too adorable to eat.

My first inclination was to share these sweets with people in my life. I knew it would bring them joy, and sure enough, whenever I shared them, the receiver’s face lit up with delight.

While there are certainly difficult and painful aspects of being a follower of Christ (and they shouldn’t be sugarcoated), the heart of the gospel is one of joy. It is a gift to be able to have the Holy Spirit with us in each moment. It is astounding to comprehend that Jesus loves us so much, He died for us. And it’s even more incredible to realize the God we worship is powerful enough to overcome everything, even death.

When you share the gospel, remember that you are extending a gift to someone else. You are offering it, not forcing it or manipulating it into their hands. And their hands must be open to receive.

You never know what someone will do with a gift you give them. They may toss it aside and forget about it. They may dig it up years later, when they are ready, and be touched by it. They may hold it close to their hearts and be transformed by it. Perhaps they will be spurred on to share it with others. And of course, there’s always the possibility that they may reject it entirely.

Your role changes once the gift has been given. Depending on your relationship with this person, you may walk alongside them, loving them and answering questions that are posed to you. Or your role may be over once the gift has been given.

Perhaps it will be years before the person truly receives your gift, but your job is not to speed up the process or push them into a decision. And sometimes, we aren’t called to share the gospel in certain situations.

What, you might be thinking, how is that biblical at all?

This month, I’ve been rereading Acts, and I stumbled upon this passage, which surprised me, but over time made sense:

Paul and his companions traveled throughout the region of Phrygia and Galatia, having been kept by the Holy Spirit from preaching the word in the province of Asia. 7 When they came to the border of Mysia, they tried to enter Bithynia, but the Spirit of Jesus would not allow them to. 8 So they passed by Mysia and went down to Troas. 9 During the night Paul had a vision of a man of Macedonia standing and begging him, “Come over to Macedonia and help us.” 10 After Paul had seen the vision, we got ready at once to leave for Macedonia, concluding that God had called us to preach the gospel to them.

Acts 16:6-10

Paul is the definition of a gospel-spreader, in many ways. He devoted his life to it. Even so, the Holy Spirit prevented him from speaking to certain groups of people. That doesn’t mean these people weren’t loved less by God, but perhaps their hearts weren’t ready or hearing the gospel at that time would’ve hurt their faith rather than helped it. I’m sure you can think of moments in history when the gospel wasn’t shared in a helpful or loving way.

There are three really important things to remember before sharing the gospel:

  1. Feel a clear prompting from the Holy Spirit. This can look like, but isn’t limited to, having an unbeliever come into your life/mind repeatedly, feeling a strong sense during prayer or when reading the Bible, or being in the present moment with someone and feeling the nudge to share.
  2. Share your story. Of course, you aren’t obligated to give out your personal testimony to every person you see. However, when you share about the gospel, it’s important to highlight how God has transformed your life. Why is this message important to you? What circumstances in your life cause you to want others to experience God too?
  3. Bless others with your words and actions. The message of Jesus is a blessing for us to receive and to share. We must give from a full heart, spending time enriching our own faith and being among a community of believers. We cannot share the gospel in a compelling way when we are deprived in our own spiritual life. View this gift Jesus has given us as a blessing rather than an obligation or a burden to carry.

I pray that as you are sent off this Sunday, you remember how much Jesus loves you. His power is within you, so you do not have to fear when the time will come for you to share His powerful testimony. Your life alone is a testimony to God’s faithfulness.

To you, Lord, I called;
    to the Lord I cried for mercy:
9 “What is gained if I am silenced,
    if I go down to the pit?
Will the dust praise you?
    Will it proclaim your faithfulness?
10 Hear, Lord, and be merciful to me;
    Lord, be my help.”

11 You turned my wailing into dancing;
    you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy,
12 that my heart may sing your praises and not be silent.
    Lord my God, I will praise you forever.

Psalm 30:8-12

Embracing Our Inadequacies

We are not defined by our mistakes — but we must learn from them if we want to become who we are meant to be.

I love everything there is to love about the art of writing — apart from one pretty major thing: receiving feedback.

I’m sure I’m not the only one who gets shattered by a harsh comment or bristles at being criticized. It’s part of human nature to be sensitive, especially about things that are intertwined with our perception of ourselves.

For those of you who aren’t writers or artists, who don’t have a piece of you on display meant for the audience and editors to judge, there are certainly other aspects of your life where you may receive feedback or there is possibility for growth. Personality traits, job performance, social skills, participating in sports or hobbies…there are so many areas of our lives that become all too personal when critiqued.

While we certainly shouldn’t take critiques to heart, there is also reason for us to embrace constructive criticism.

In the wise words of Winston Churchill, “Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfills the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things.”

But what about when we are convicted in our faith? Now that’s a whole other matter. While being told that our brushstrokes are too heavy or our pitch is too soft or our characters need deeper development doesn’t say anything about who we are as a person, our faith is our connection to Jesus. When we face convictions, we may begin to shy away from Jesus.

I’m sure you know of at least one person who is deterred from participating in a relationship with Jesus because they are afraid of being judged by Him and don’t want to feel convicted. Honestly, fair point. Especially for someone who hasn’t spent much time with Jesus and doesn’t understand much of who He is.

There are many interactions of Jesus’ in the New Testament that are uncomfortable. One of which occurs in Mark 10 when a law-abiding man approaches Jesus with a question, “Good teacher, what must I do to inherit eternal life?”

Now, this man had followed every single law (at least, according to his account, and Jesus didn’t disagree), but he had accumulated great wealth. Knowing that perhaps generosity was a weakness of his, Jesus replied, “You lack one thing — go, sell whatever you have and give the money to the poor; then you will have treasure in heaven. And come, follow me.” (Mark 10: 17, 21)

This man was disheartened by the news, as I’m sure any of us would’ve been to hear that we had to give up everything we had earned. In the MOUNCE translation, which gives the Greek words and meanings alongside the English text, the word for disheartened is “stygnazō”, which means a gloomy or downcast look, as well as to be shocked and appalled.

I think most of us can relate to this man, even though we may not be rich. You’ve done everything you could do. You’ve lived a “better” life than most of the people around you. And yet, you still have more to give? When will enough be enough?

I’m not a historian or a biblical scholar, so I can’t say whether or not this man had spoken to Jesus before. Assuming that he hadn’t, imagine that this was his first interaction with this renowned teacher. He had heard how Jesus extended love in such a way that no one could leave Him unaffected. He was excited — the Bible says that he ran up to Jesus and even kneeled before him, showing reverence — but that excitement disappeared when he was met by reproach instead of love.

Or was that really what happened?

Today was the first time I noticed Jesus’ reaction to this man before He told him to give up everything he had. It says, “Jesus, looking at him, loved him”. The Greek word for loved in this passage is “agapaō”, which means “to love, value, esteem, feel or manifest generous concern for, be faithful towards and to delight in”.

Jesus wasn’t ashamed of this man for what he lacked. Jesus loved him, so much that he wanted him to take a leap of faith and follow Him. Jesus knew it wouldn’t be easy. He also knew, I’m sure, that the man would choose to walk away that day. It never says that this love of Jesus’ disappeared when the man’s doubt and hesitation rose up. And perhaps this man changed his mind and followed Jesus later.

Jesus knew what act of faith would best strengthen this man, and He challenged him to grow. Any criticism or conviction worth listening to will challenge us to do the same.

So what can we take away from this story? A number of things, as with every encounter with Jesus.

First, don’t push away convictions as they rise up in your heart. Even if you don’t accept the challenge now, consider it. Ask yourself, will making this change in my life cause me to rely on Jesus even more than I already am?

Second, your growth areas don’t define or diminish your value. When it comes to your art or work or personality, the critiques given to you by others are generally meant to give you new perspective and help you become the best version of you that you can be.

And when it comes to Jesus, His words are always out of a place of love and generous concern for you.

So today, listen to Jesus. Contemplate His words. Ask Him questions. Because He loves you so much, He wants you to go to Him with everything and rely on Him as your source of strength.

Through it all, you will rise up into the person He created you to be.

Looking at them, Jesus said, “With man it is impossible, but not with God; for all things are possible with God.”

Mark 10:27

Why are You in Ministry?

Reflections on participating in ministry.

We are all in ministry.

Yes, even you, even in an office or a classroom or at home. In fact, it often takes different forms over the course of your life. Sometimes it means serving in Sunday school, other times it means caring for a unbelieving family member.

Ministry is often defined in religious settings as working towards bringing people to God and discipling them with God’s love. Everyone, whether people who have grown up in faith or haven’t heard a single word from the Bible, needs to experience God’s ministry.

Here is one definition of ministry: “A person or thing through which something is accomplished” (Merriam-Webster Dictionary). Another word for this is instrumentality, which means the state of being a crucial tool.

In some ways, I like this definition because it reminds us of our purpose as God’s creation to spread the good news of Jesus’ love and sacrifice to others so that their lives can be transformed. However, when we begin to view our ministry as a thing that needs to be accomplished, we lose sight of what really matters.

Yesterday, I had a conversation with a very insightful pastor who shared about a discussion he was having with other sermon-writers about balancing the need to create sermons that both serve the congregation and also allow for the pastors themselves to explore where God’s Spirit is leading and teaching them individually.

While it may seem like a pastor’s main job is to serve the congregation, how much richer would sermons be if pastors wrote them from a place of curiosity and readiness to grow closer to God in their own spiritual journeys?

Though you may not be writing a sermon anytime soon, I believe this approach to ministry is crucial no matter where we serve. Most of my ministry is in the form of creating and teaching lessons for kids. Recently, I’ve found myself overly focused on creating a fun and memorable experience for the kids rather than trying to hear what God is teaching me through these lessons.

This past year has been a season of stepping back and reevaluating why I’m in ministry. Is it to fulfill a hole in my life? Is it to feel needed? Is it because I love God and His people? Is it because I am called?

And what happens when a calling shifts? Does that mean I have to move even if good work is being done?

Last fall, I had been wrestling over whether or not to leave a ministry position at the end of my term, particularly because it had felt like my calling for a period of time and I hadn’t experienced a clear new calling yet. After several events and encounters led me to conclude that it was time to step aside and make room for a new leader, I still had lingering questions in the back of my mind: Am I really supposed to leave? How can I know for sure?

Then it hit me this week, as I’m winding down my time in this position, one question I hadn’t asked myself until now: Is my participation in this ministry bringing me closer to God or hurting my relationship with Him?

Truthfully, while I believe other parts of my life are drawing me closer to God, my recent experiences in this role have not been beneficial to my spiritual wellbeing. They have caused me to get caught up in the “doing” rather than the “being” of relationship with God and others.

I think it’s important for everyone in ministry to periodically reevaluate why they are in ministry. If this is the place where you are at right now, I’m inviting you to ask yourself these questions as honestly as you can:

  1. What originally drew me to this ministry? Do those factors still apply? Have new factors arisen?
  2. How do I feel after participating in this ministry?
  3. Do I still sense a calling from God to stay in this ministry?
  4. Are there other ministries that I am more drawn to?
  5. Is my participation in this ministry bringing me closer to God or hurting my relationship with Him (and others)?

These aren’t questions for the faint of heart, and I pray that you are presented with answers that bring you clarity and peace. God is working in you wherever you are, and nothing you can do will change that.

You yourselves are our letter, written on our hearts, known and read by everyone. You show that you are a letter from Christ, the result of our ministry, written not with ink but with the Spirit of the living God, not on tablets of stone but on tablets of human hearts.

Such confidence we have through Christ before God.

2 Corinthians 3:2-4

It Won’t Be Like This Forever

Encouragement to step outside of life’s current demands.

Today’s been one of those reflective sort of days. I was cleaning out an old drawer and found a plethora of old cards, drawings, and remnants from the past, including an SD card from my very first camera.

Scrolling through the blurry pictures, I had to laugh. I couldn’t even imagine what Little Hannah would think of the photos I take now. Not an incomprehensible blur of color? Woah!

Whether life is going well, going horribly, or feeling pretty mundane, it’s easy to get bogged down by life’s current demands. It may feel like you’ll never have the answer, relationship, opportunity or growth you desire.

But I promise, for better or for worse, this isn’t how life will be forever.

So how can we make the most of the season we’re in? Here are a few tips based on the kind of season you are in:

Joyful/Exciting

I’m so glad that this season is going well for you. Perhaps you are experiencing new life, fresh perspective, or the opportunity you’ve always imagined. Take a moment to slow down and celebrate this time. Journal about it, capture the memories, and save them for a time when life may not feel as grand. This will give you hope for the future.

Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near.

Philippians 4:4-5

Difficult

I’m so sorry that you are experiencing a form of pain or discomfort. You may be struggling to get up each morning, wondering the purpose of this trial. While you may not have the energy or motivation you used to, this time will not last forever. God loves you so much, and as you trust Him with all aspects of your life, you will begin to feel your strength again.

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

2 Corinthians 12:9-10

Boring/Waiting

Stuck in a rut? Did you know that some of the most creative and innovative projects have come out of a person’s boredom? If you have extra time on your hands, don’t waste it! Spend time with others, invest in those who may not be having the easiest time right now, and prepare yourself for the busier road ahead. God will use the waiting as long as you are willing to follow His lead.

Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.

Psalm 27:14

Restful

Ah, the restful season. Take a deep breath, pour yourself into your passions, and thank God for this gift. Don’t fret over the next activity to partake in–rather, enjoy this season of slowness and refresh yourself with this opportunity. Take time to grow in your faith and make intentional effort to establish healthy habits now so that they will be there for you when harder times come.

Then God blessed the seventh day and made it holy, because on it he rested from all the work of creating that he had done.

Genesis 2:3

Unsure

Perhaps you are unsure what kind of season you are experiencing. You may be in between stages of life and that can be overwhelming. But don’t worry–God has an incredible plan for you.

Cherish the moments of joy, glimpses of hope, and the presence of faithfulness in this time as you rely on God and His promises for you.


And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them.

1 John 4:16

Why the Rush?

Understanding the root behind our burnout.

There are many reasons why we find ourselves stuck in a busy rhythm with little time to be still.

Perhaps we have trouble setting boundaries, our job requires much from us, or we get bored easily. But at the root of these various reasons is fear.

Fear tells us that people won’t like us if we say no.

Fear tells us that we have to be the one to save the day.

Fear tells us that we are defined by what we do, not who we are.

Fear tells us that we will collapse if we take a break.

Fear tells us that slowing down means giving up.

Fear tells us that God won’t be there when we finally make the time to be still in His presence.

Fear tells us not to trust God with all areas of our lives, including our temptations, our distractions, our inadequacies, and our demands.

But who is fear to tell us anything?

Fear never stepped out in faith.

Fear never encouraged the outcast or belittled.

Fear never took a risk that could’ve cost everything.

Fear never filled us with peace amid a sea of uncertainty.

Fear has never gone through what you have gone through and still stands here today, undefeated.

So why do we trust a silly thing called fear when we have an almighty, loving God right beside us?

Today, may your act of courage be taking a moment to be still. Set aside all distractions and open your heart to God. Even if it’s a five minute walk, listening to nature rather than artificial sounds. Even if it’s participating in a simple breath prayer. Even if it seems so small and insignificant, it will make a huge difference on your wellbeing.

God is the God of rest. So be still in His presence today and be filled with His everlasting peace.

He says, “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.”

Psalm 46:10

Who Are You Listening To?

Retraining our thoughts towards Jesus.

You’re going about your life and–BAM–an intrusive thought slivers its way into your brain. Telling you lies, which are hard to let go of. In fact, it takes 3oo times of repeating a better thought before the lie is removed.

God cares about our thoughts. When we are told to be obedient to God, it not only means following the commands in the Bible for living a healthier life. Obedience means listening with our full selves to God.

I’m sure you’ve experienced conversations where you have something else playing in your head while the other person is talking. You leave unsure of what was even discussed. When lies fill our minds, causing us to doubt ourselves and the truth of God’s love, we aren’t able to listen to God.

There are two practices I have been introduced to this week that may help both of us on our journey towards listening to God.

  • Practicing listening without responding

Read a portion of the Bible with a loved one, then take turns listening without commenting, agreeing, or inflicting your opinion. By allowing yourself to be solely focused on absorbing what the other person has to share, you won’t be consumed with figuring out what to say next.

  • Write down a situation where you had strong (negative) emotions today. Record what you were thinking during this experience and then consider whether there’s a more constructive thought to replace it with when in a similar situation.

For example:

Original thought: I didn’t get the response I wanted, which must mean I’m not good at what I’m doing.

Replacement thought: Perhaps this response can give me new perspective. I am still loved and purposeful even when I don’t do as well as I had hoped.

Your state of mind matters just as much as all the other parts of you. I hope and pray this week is the start of allowing God to speak to you above all other voices.

My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one will snatch them out of my hand.

John 10:28-29

The Power of Lament

What if your pain can bring you closer to God?

Some call it feeling “low”, others call it “the blues”. But in reality, that sinking, twisting pang of sorrow, longing, or even misery can seem to great for words.

Yet what if words, though shallow they may feel, can actually bring deeper healing?

I used to feel guilty for complaining to God, but recently I’ve discovered the power of a prayer of lament. It’s not a long list of complaints, gossip, or ramblings. Rather, it’s a chance to grow closer to God by trusting Him with your deepest feelings, even when they are negative.

God cares about you–not just the sunny, cheerful parts or the action-packed, exciting moments. Not even the side that witnesses best. It is through dealing with the painful, dark times that we can open ourselves fully to the love God has for us and the love we are meant to share with others.

So, how do you write a lament? Here are a few simple steps (though really, with patience and reflection, will be so much more than simple):

  1. Address God (what names make you feel most connected to Him?)
  2. Admit your innermost feelings. Even if they don’t feel right or true, just write them out. Sometimes looking at words on a page can help them feel less overwhelming.
  3. Remember the ways that God has shown up for you in the past and thank Him.
  4. Find an aspect of your life that brings you hope. It doesn’t have to be big to be meaningful.

God loves you so much and wants desperately to hear from you. No matter what you are going through, you are not in this alone.<3

For no one is cast off
    by the Lord forever.

Though he brings grief, he will show compassion,
    so great is his unfailing love.
For he does not willingly bring affliction
    or grief to anyone.

Lamentations 3:31-33

Making Room for Rest

What does rest look like for you in this stage of life?

I have just returned from my time abroad! I am thankful for your patience as this site took a break, and I look forward to sharing all that God taught me during my trip over the next few weeks!

Heading into this trip, I distracted myself with many things. I was working multiple jobs, starting various creative projects, and never letting myself take a moment to realize what was happening.

Forcing myself to feel productive and purposeful left me feeling drained and overwhelmed. Actions meant to prevent me from harm ended up postponing the deeper healing I needed.

But thankfully God gave me the opportunity to step out of my current reality and objectively look at my life. Through the four weeks I was away, rest had to take a different form.

Often it was simply a necessity after running around a Tube station in search of the right train or a particularly intense class session. There was no other way to move forward without taking a breather first.

Ultimately, I realized more deeply than I ever had before that rest needs to be a priority. It may feel like laziness or procrastination, but making room for rest in life is the only way to do things well. To live fully into the purpose God has created us for.

And then, of course, the day after I get home the one thing I haven’t checked off on my to-do list is “rest”.

But rest can’t be checked off. Rather, it needs to be a practice. Pausing before reaching for our devices to soak in the moment and regroup. Praying and reading the Bible before starting or ending the day. Taking a walk before starting a task.

Rest looks different in each season, but it’s vital no matter where you are in life. I hope you can love yourself enough to give yourself the chance to rest and bring your best self to the table. You are worth it. ❤


Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, Jesus said to them, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.”

Mark 6:31

What Does it Really Mean to Follow Jesus?

Following Jesus isn’t about achieving “goodness”, but what if that’s a beautiful thing?

Perhaps if you grew up in a Christian home or attending Sunday School, you were taught that being a Christian meant asking Jesus into your heart.

And that’s true. But that’s not all of it.

Following Jesus isn’t about whether or not you miss a church service (or haven’t even found a church home yet). It isn’t about which pastors you agree with, whether or not you tithe, what your political views are, or how often you pray.

It all comes down to one simple question.

Who or what do you orient your life around?

And if the answer is anything but Jesus, it seems like you may be following something else instead.

Because if you put Jesus at the center of your life, your decision making, and your way of interacting with others, then everything will change. It will be evident that something greater than you is at work.

Now, this doesn’t mean you have to go around preaching the Bible to every single person you meet. It isn’t the stereotypical image of being a “good Christian”. In fact, I don’t believe there’s really any “good Christian”; that just sets up an unachievable image that turns people away.

I believe what matters is that we try our best and don’t give up on our relationship with God.

I’ll confess that I struggle at keeping Jesus at the center of my life. I often want my plans or dreams to come into fruition and then have the faith element happen later. But that’s not how faith works. Faith comes out of not knowing how things will work out, but believing that God is faithful regardless.

So how can we keep Jesus at the center of our lives without making it performative or have the act of “being a Christian” take over the true essence of embodying God’s love?

Do things that bring you closer to Jesus that don’t require an audience.

Read the Bible on your own, not to master a passage, but to envelope yourself in God’s promises.

Pray by yourself at a time when you know you won’t be disturbed.

Immerse yourself in God’s creation, appreciating God’s eye for beauty.

Don’t go out of your way to preach the Bible to others, but instead experience who God is and do your best to imitate that.

Most of all, be open to when God is speaking to you. See who God leads you to, what opportunities would best allow you to shine God’s light, and when is it time to refuel yourself in God’s peace and rest.

Following Jesus isn’t a simple checklist that can be completed in a lifetime. The truth is, no one can complete it because none of us can perfectly embody Jesus’ characteristics.

It’s more of a process, a true relationship. And I’ll guarantee, it’s the best relationship for you to invest in. ❤

For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.

Ephesians 2:8-10